The following material is intended to answer some of your questions about general Michigan parenting time. It is not intended to answer specific questions about your particular case, since each case is different. To have your particular questions answered about Michigan parenting time please call, 734.927.9782, the Michigan Parenting Time attorneys at Stelmock Law Firm, P.C.
Separation and divorce impose tough tasks on all family members, including the children. Children feel as though they are the powerless losers, deprived of the full-time proper guidance of their two parents.
Although there might be some bitterness between you and your partner, it should not be inflicted on your children. In every child’s mind there should be an image of two loving parents. To foster this image, you should remember that Michigan parenting time is a time for the parent and the children to be with each other, to enjoy each other, to maintain positive relationships.
Having other people present during parenting time can dilute the parent-child experience, and it might appear to the children that you do not have the time or interest in them that allows you to give them your undivided attention during parenting time.
Visits to grandparents are almost certainly acceptable but should not become the norm for all Michigan parenting time and should not be an excuse for you to disappear. Furthermore, if your parents are displeased with the divorce and are angry with your ex-partner, it is your responsibility to request that they keep their views to themselves in the presence of the children.
You might be concerned about what to do with or where to take your children during your Michigan parenting time, particularly if they are very young. Planned amusements can add to the pleasure of your time together, but most important of all is your involvement with the children. Avoid boredom (yours and the children’s) by finding out what interests the children have and giving of yourself. This might be getting down on the floor with stacking toys, reading the same story repeatedly to a toddler, making up stories or a batch of cookies, supervising homework or working on a science fair project together, teaching a child to ride a bike or throw a ball or program a computer, gardening, or playing chess. Material things and holiday-type outings cannot compare with the steady influence such “real life” parenting provides. This divorce or separation provides you with an opportunity to establish your own traditions for bedtimes, Saturday mornings, holidays, etc.
This is not to say that an occasional special trip, outing, or present is inappropriate. Rather, you should avoid having a feverish round of tiring activity or plying a child with expensive gifts each parenting time. This can be interpreted by the children or your former partner as a shallow and counterproductive effort to purchase the children’s affection or sympathy.
Your specific situation may be somewhat different from the norm; please call, 734.927.9782, the Canton Michigan Divorce Lawyers and Canton Michigan Family Law Attorneys at Stelmock Law Firm, PC to discuss your matter. We represent clients in the Metro Detroit area (Canton, Plymouth, Northville, Livonia, Westland, Ann Arbor, Novi) and throughout Wayne, Washtenaw, Oakland, and Livingston counties. The firm’s office is located at 8556 N. Canton Center Road, Canton, Michigan 48187
By: Robert J. Stelmock, Attorney, GAL, Parenting Coordinator & Mediator at Stelmock Law Firm, PC